Inheritances, Early Gifts and Family Law: Is What You Receive Really Protected?

Inheritances, Early Gifts and Family Law: Is What You Receive Really Protected?

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Inheritances, Early Gifts and Family Law: Is What You Receive Really Protected?

Author: Robert Lamb

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21 Jan 2026

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  • An inheritance is not automatically protected in family law property settlements.
  • The timing and use of an inheritance or early gift can significantly affect how it is treated.
  • Early financial support from parents or grandparents should be clearly documented to avoid future disputes.
  • Proactive advice across Family Law and Wills & Estates can help protect assets and reduce conflict.

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For many families, an inheritance represents far more than money. It can symbolise a lifetime of hard work, family legacy, and the desire to support the next generation. But when relationships break down, inheritances and even early gifts from parents or grandparents, can quickly become one of the most contentious issues in family law and estate disputes.

A common misconception I hear from clients is: “An inheritance is mine — surely it’s protected?”
Unfortunately, in family law, the answer is rarely that simple.

Are inheritances protected in family law?

Ultimately the Court in any Family law matter must make a decision that is just and equitable in all the circumstances and the Court’s powers in this regard are wide.

Depending on the circumstances, an inheritance may:

  • be included in the overall property pool as a financial resource;
  • be excluded entirely but still influence the final outcome; or
  • have no bearing on the final outcome.

What the Court cannot do is ignore it altogether. The general answer is that powers of the Court under the Family Law Act are wide and whilst an inheritance can be taken into account it is usually under very specific circumstances.

 This uncertainty is often what leads to conflict. The person who received the inheritance understandably feels it should remain theirs. The other party may argue it should be shared, particularly if it benefited the relationship or significantly altered the couple’s financial position.

Timing matters but it’s not everything

One of the most important factors the Court considers is when the inheritance was received. Broadly, this may be:

  • before the relationship began;
  • during the relationship; or
  • after separation.

An inheritance received early in a long relationship and used to support family expenses, purchase property, or reduce debt may be treated very differently from an inheritance received after separation and kept entirely separate.

However, timing alone does not determine the outcome. The Court will also look closely at how the inheritance was applied and whether the other party contributed to its preservation or growth.

Early inheritances and family support - a growing issue

An increasingly common scenario we see involves “early inheritances”. Many parents and grandparents are choosing to provide financial assistance while they are alive, helping with school fees, house deposits, or living expenses rather than waiting until their estate is distributed.

It has been widely reported that a significant proportion of private school fees are now paid, at least in part, by grandparents. Often, these payments are later “equalised” through Wills so that other children who did not receive early assistance are treated fairly.

While this approach can make practical sense for families, it can create real legal risk if relationships later break down or such payments are not properly documented.

Was the payment a gift?
A loan?
An advance on an inheritance?

If this is not clearly documented, early financial support can unintentionally become entangled in family law proceedings or even in future disputes between siblings.

What factors will the Court consider?

When determining how an inheritance or early gift should be treated, the Court may consider:

  • the timing of the inheritance or gift;
  • the size of the inheritance relative to the total asset pool;
  • how the funds were used;
  • whether the non-recipient contributed to its preservation or improvement; and
  • the overall contributions of each party and their future needs.

The Court’s role is to reach a just and equitable outcome, not simply to trace where money came from.

Why early legal advice matters

Whether you are:

  • expecting an inheritance;
  • receiving early financial support from family;
  • separating and unsure how an inheritance will be treated; or
  • planning your estate and wanting to protect what you pass on to your children or grandchildren

early legal advice can make a significant difference.

Tools such as Binding Financial Agreements, careful structuring of gifts, clear documentation and well-drafted estate planning documents can help manage risk and reduce future disputes whether inside or outside your family  but they are most effective when put in place before problems arise.

At Hillhouse Legal Partners, our team works closely across Family Law, Wills & Estates and Litigation, allowing us to take a holistic view of your situation and provide advice that is practical, strategic and tailored to your family dynamics.

Final thoughts

Most people want to be generous and assist their children and grandchildren.

Inheritances and family assistance are deeply personal matters. When relationships change, emotions can run high and legal complexity quickly follows.

Understanding your position and planning ahead is the best way to protect both your interests and your family relationships.

If you have questions about how an inheritance, early gift or family support may be treated, or you want to take steps now to safeguard the future, I encourage you to reach out to discuss your options with our team.

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The Bank of Mum and Dad

The Bank of Mum and Dad

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The Bank of Mum and Dad

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6 Aug 2024

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  • Significant Role of "Bank of Mum and Dad": The Bank of Mum and Dad is now utilised by 2 in 5 first home buyers in Australia, making it one of the largest lenders with an annual lending amount of around $92 billion and an average loan of approximately $92,000 per transaction.
  • Need for Independent Advice: It is crucial for both parents (lenders/donors) and children (borrowers/recipients) to obtain separate independent legal, financial, and taxation advice to ensure transparency and avoid potential conflicts.
  • Importance of Clear Documentation: All transactions should be treated like business dealings, with clear documentation specifying whether the financial assistance is a gift or a loan, the terms of the loan, any interest charges, and any security or mortgage arrangements.
  • Estate Planning Considerations: Parents need to consider how loans or gifts to children will impact their estate plans. Proper documentation and clear intentions in wills can prevent future conflicts, emotional stress, and potential litigation.

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Hillhouse Legal Partners touched on this subject back in 2021[1] but now the Bank of Mum and Dad is used by 2 in 5 first home buyers[2] and is somewhere between the 5th and 10th largest Australian lender, lending annually around $92 billion[3] with an average of about $92,000 being lent by parents to children.[4]

The legal, financial and taxation advantages and disadvantages both for Mum and Dad and for the children have to be considered and thought needs to be given how best to ensure everyone goes into the transaction with open eyes and advice.

People don’t like Banks[5] and the Bank of Mum and Dad may be no different. Getting it wrong and sometimes even getting it right can lead to family conflict and falling out with allegations of favouritism or emotional blackmail.[6] 

If such gifts or loans are going to be advanced and money given or lent then the lenders/donors and borrowers/recipient should obtain separate independent taxation, accounting and financial advice as well as separate independent legal advice.

Start with Clarity

Treat the transaction like any arms’ length transaction or business dealing. 

Both parties should have separate independent legal advice (as well as separate independent taxation, accounting and financial advice).

At the very least any agreement or arrangement should be in writing and an acknowledgment of the receipt of the money should be obtained and kept by the Bank of Mum and Dad.    

The terms of the transaction should be clearly stated in the document.

If it is a gift, say so.

If it is a loan say so, and on what terms the loan is given.  If there is interest to be charged how is it calculated, if there is to be security or a mortgage say so, and if necessary register a mortgage on the house title.  If principal has to be repaid by a certain date or event, say so.

If the parents are to own part of the property (to be put on the title) or live on the property then say so but make sure everyone knows the legal and practical advantages and disadvantages of such a strategy.  Make sure you talk to your lawyer, financial planner, accountant and tax adviser. 

Even with the best of intentions between Mum and Dad and the children, things go wrong.  Circumstances occur outside the parties’ control that frustrate the best of intentions. People get divorced, markets change, people die, people enter into bad business decisions, and people go bankrupt.  Put it all in writing and have a lawyer review it and advise you.   

What Happens Next?

Mum and Dad may need to consider how they deal with the loan or gifts to one or more children in their Estate Plan.

Sometimes in their Estate Plan and Wills people will forgive loans in part or in total, sometimes they will equalise such loans and then forgive, on other occasions they will ensure that children to whom money was not lent receive more in the Will.

Not giving it thought and not properly documenting it in an Estate Plan can lead to conflict and in worst case scenarios to litigation causing significant emotional stress, time and the Estate to also be financially depleted, sometimes greatly.

Again, we stress legal advice should be sought.

Plan It All Out

Borrowing from the Bank of Mum and Dad needs thought and planning by everyone.  It is vital that:

  • Advice should be sought by everyone, a plan thought through, considered and implemented and documented;
  • Documents then prepared and signed;
  • The Plan then implemented and followed through; and
  • If appropriate an Estate Plan and Wills drafted.

Planning and documenting out the intended transaction clearly, avoids confusion and misunderstandings, and manages the expectations of those involved.

We can advise you in relation to a proposed gift or loan to your children as well as help you document the transaction and the security and your Estate Plan and Wills, or if you are a child receiving a gift or loan provide advice on the proposed loan and security. To make a time to discuss your personal circumstances simply send us an email or call 07 3220 1144.

 


[1] https://hillhouse.com.au/blog/lending-money-to-children/

[2] Money Magazine, 2 February 2024 Wotton, T https://www.moneymag.com.au/bank-of-mum-and-dad-and-gift-letters-what-you-need-to-know

[3] Australian Financial Review 19 March 2021 Hughes, Duncan https://www.afr.com/companies/financial-services/bank-of-mum-and-dad-contributions-hit-34b-20210317-p57bkz  Ceyda Erem Mozo 4 March 2020 https://mozo.com.au/home-loans/articles/bank-of-mum-and-and-dad-report-2020

[4] Australian Financial Review 29 November 2023 Wootton, Hannah  https://www.afr.com/companies/financial-services/the-bank-of-mum-and-dad-is-good-for-70-000-new-analysis-concludes-20231129-p5enpp

[5] SMH 4 December 2017 Hanna, C https://www.smh.com.au/opinion/its-time-we-thought-a-bit-harder-about-why-we-hate-banks-20171201-gzwtin.html

[6] ABC Radio Perth 3 March 2024 Wynne, E https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-03-03/the-hidden-costs-of-borrowing-from-the-bank-of-mum-and-dad/103514150

Family Office Legal Services: Closing the gate BEFORE the horse has bolted

Family Office Legal Services: Closing the gate BEFORE the horse has bolted

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Family Office Legal Services: Closing the gate BEFORE the horse has bolted

Author: Robert Lamb

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18 Jul 2024

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Wealthy individuals and family groups face inherent complexity as their wealth increases and their family continually grows and changes. Family office legal considerations can be far ranging and need to be addressed proactively, if not urgently, as closing the gate once the horse has bolted can result in adverse impacts for years, and often generations to come.

Carefully curated Family Office services can do the heavy lifting of the financial, business, tax and in particular, legal matters and for meeting obligations that affect wealthy individuals and their family groups.

Family Office services are increasingly in demand for wealthy individuals. As described in my colleague James Marshalls’ recent overview, a coordinated family office isn’t solely the domain of the ultra-wealthy.  It makes good and practical sense for those with considerable and emerging wealth to establish personal administration earlier rather than later.

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When it comes to wealth, complexity seems to dominate most things and this is made all the more difficult when decisions about hard assets involve the softer and often irrational and unpredictable nature of human emotions.

There is a raft of legal matters that need to be discussed and actions decided upon, and it can be overwhelming. Managing your considerable personal wealth now, as it evolves and in context of intergenerational wealth transfer cannot, and must not, be left to chance.

For the purpose of this article and for simplicity’s sake, I’ve assigned key legal matters to those that should be attended to ‘during life’ and those that matter ‘afterwards’.

However, it must be noted each individual and their family group circumstances will differ and will require a bespoke approach to advice and the blend of professional services.

During Life
There have been numerous studies by reputable organisations over the years that come to a similar wealth conclusion. Three generations appears to be a curse.

Among them Nasdaq, which reported 70% of families lost their wealth in their second generation and 90% of families lost it in the third. Indeed, we’ve written about shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations here in our Resources Unearthed blog as well.

If you are a family patriarch or matriarch who has created your family wealth, the prospect of losing all you’ve accomplished in your lifetime can weigh heavily on your shoulders.

Protecting your future offspring from themselves and preserving family wealth for the benefit of generations to come, well beyond the curse of three, should be among your legacy planning priorities.

You will need qualified legal advice and support, and this will be more effective when in collaboration with other qualified, expert professionals including your financial adviser and accountant.

Together an ‘advice team’ can cover all the bases while providing differing perspectives, expertise and initiative that not only contributes to seamless integration of a broad collection of family office matters but often produces better outcomes.

Legal matters that commonly need addressing include asset protection, establishing frameworks and structures for governance, legal administration for compliance to regulatory matters including securities and tax law, and dispute resolution that may range from mediation to litigation for resolving matters both outside and within the family group.

Legal advice and guidance requiring a deep understanding of the family’s wealth and purpose, includes deciding upon and implementing legal structures, processes and guidance for wealth transfer.

This advice and guidance can span immediate inheritances to children and longer-term intergenerational wealth transfer planning and implementation for grandchildren, great grandchildren and those beyond. Charitable giving and philanthropic activities will also need careful consideration.

As a family’s wealth is very often underpinned by successful business endeavours, advance planning and consideration to legal matters for business succession and transitioning family-owned businesses from one generation to the next will also require advice and support for future successful continuity.

Aside from business matters, there are often very personal decisions that need to be made relating to the family group as a whole and for the individuals within it.

For example, how do you want your children and other family members to benefit (or perhaps not) from your wealth during your life?  Will you give with a warm hand, rather than making them wait until its cold?

How will you deal with fairness, and what could be the legal ramifications of gifting money verses formalising lending arrangements (even if you don’t intend the loan to be repaid) for significant purchases such as homes or businesses?

There can be disastrous consequences of lending money to family members with nothing more than the best of intentions. Unfortunately, marriages break down and in the absence of documentation you will likely have no recourse on your money, now a valuable home that’s included in marital assets to be split with a non-family member.

Just as damaging, business partnerships can turn sour resulting in bankruptcy and the substantial start-up funding given in good faith dissolves with the now defunct business.

Careful consideration must also be given to how wealth will be distributed though the generations, remembering you don’t yet know future family members or what their circumstances might be.

Family members can have serious problems – gambling, substance abuse or they become critically ill or have an accident and die suddenly without a Will.

Planning and documentation during your life can avoid a lot of potential problems and save a lot of money and angst later.

Afterwards

Quite apart from the emotional angst caused for loved ones, dying without a Will can leave immense legal, financial, wealth and business problems.

You may recall when Robert Holmes a Court, a successful businessman and one of Australia’s richest men, died suddenly aged 53. It was 1990, and reportedly at the time of his death he had assets were worth $800 million.

Unfortunately for all those he loved or depended on him he died intestate – without a Will.

The legal wrangling took 20 years and the jury is still out as to whether the seriously damaged family relationships ever healed or if they ever will.

You’d be surprised how many wealthy people don’t have a Will or Estate Plan. For those who do, it’s often so old that the instructions and provisions for beneficiaries bare little relevance to current circumstances.

Not surprisingly, from a legal perspective outdated Wills and Estate Plans that fail to keep pace with changing family relationships, business and legislative changes, can be so riddled with holes and they won’t hold water when contested in what can be long, drawn out and expensive legal battles.

Wealthy individuals need well planned and well executed Wills that provide clear instruction and provisions for their wealth in context of individuals and the family group as a whole.

This is to ensure, once they’ve passed on, their wealth is protected and distributed effectively, legally and in accordance with their agreed wishes and the overriding needs, goals and philosophies of the family group.

You (and everyone else in the family group particularly the family leaders) need a current Will, with appropriate Executors and Enduring Power of Attorney.

On the latter point, your representatives must be available to and capable of, making complex and difficult decisions on your behalf that will likely impact your family group, when you can’t.

Reviewing and updating your Executor and Power of Attorney should be done regularly as circumstances can change in your relationship with them. Not least they pre-decease you or you have a falling out that makes them morally or legally unsuitable to represent you.

If executing a Will is step one, then implementing an Estate Plan that includes among other things Testamentary and Superannuation Proceeds trusts, asset protection and tax minimisation structures for dealing with unneeded tax consequences if an important next step.

You may also consider a Statement of Wishes that articulates your intentions or desire for distribution of your personal wealth to your children and grandchildren. For family groups, this can also serve to reinforce the overarching goals, family values and responsibilities and the enduring charter of your family wealth.

Wealthy individuals who are serious about shoring up their legacy require a flexible Family Office service that integrates wide ranging legal, business, tax, and financial matters that affect both individuals, the family group as a whole and its generations to come.

For family law advice please contact Robert Lamb, on 07 3220 1144  or email robert@hillhouse.com.au.

This article was originally published by Resources Unearthed here.

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Grey Divorce: Avoiding financial devastation

Grey Divorce: Avoiding financial devastation

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Grey Divorce: Avoiding financial devastation

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4 Nov 2021

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  • If considering divorce, your first step should be to talk to a lawyer who is experienced in separation and divorce.
  • All divorcing couples (and de facto separations), must divide up or sell all assets of the relationship.
  • Couples in their 50s, 60s and even their 70s getting divorced after a lifetime together has become so common, it is now referenced in Wikipedia® as “Grey Divorce”.

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Couples in their 50s, 60s and even their 70s are getting divorced after a lifetime together. It’s becoming so common that it now has its own reference in Wikipedia® – “Grey Divorce”.

While divorce is one of the most significant emotional and financial events that can occur in any person’s life, Grey Divorce has its own unique issues. Parenting agreements are not usually one of them (as any children are usually well and truly adults) however, and especially for those in the mining and resources sector, there can be extremely complex financial matters that, if handled incorrectly, can be devastating.

As is the case for all divorcing couples (and de facto separations), assets of the relationship must be divided up or sold, which unfortunately is often not at a time of their choosing, which can mean in markets that are unforgiving.

Downsizing usually occurs, assuming both parties can afford to rehouse themselves, debts are repaid or refinanced and superannuation is split.

Unlike younger divorcees, Grey Divorcees usually don’t have another 25 years of their working lives left to recover financially. Older women are particularly disadvantaged, as they often have had little, or no opportunity to accumulate substantial superannuation of their own if they have been the primary caregiver and therefore unable to work.

In my experience, while divorce proceedings will almost certainly bring difficult times, applying to the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia for orders, should only be considered a last resort.

There are quicker, less confrontational and certainly less expensive options available than applying to the Court for orders and enduring a contested court case.

While you will be required to follow a legal process there are a number of related, and just as pressing matters, that need to be considered. These include developing a financial ‘recovery’ plan, dealing with debt, and refinancing if it is required to buy out jointly owned assets.

For mining and resources executives, there are added complexities relating to executive share schemes and remuneration packages that may include potential bonuses or executive share options. As there can be a large income difference between spouses, negotiating the division of assets, including superannuation, will also be necessary.

Your next steps

If considering divorce, your first step should be to talk to a lawyer who is experienced in separation and divorce. Ensure you are advised of the complete process and know your options.

Next, negotiate with your partner (with or without lawyers) and exchange documents that will facilitate negotiations and the settlement process. You should also attend mediation with your partner with an experienced family dispute resolution practitioner or family law mediator (again, with or without lawyers).

For mining and resources executives and business owners, your circumstances are likely to be more complex, therefore taking an ‘advice team’ approach that includes your lawyer, financial planner and accountant and tax specialist, who will interact with one another and consult collectively on your behalf, is recommended.

I can speak from direct experience, that working collaboratively with specialised professionals delivers well-considered, usually seamless and workable solutions that generally deliver better outcomes, sooner.

To get in contact and make a time to discuss your personal circumstances simply send us an email or call 07 3220 1144. 

This article was originally published by Resources Unearthed here. 

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Lending money to children

Lending money to children

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Lending money to children

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25 Oct 2021

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  • The booming property market has reportedly led to more parents helping their children buy a house.
  • There are many legal issues to consider including loan defaults, your Will and changes in your circumstances.
  • It’s legally recommended to have at least written loan documents and a registered mortgage.

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The current booming property market has reportedly led to more parents guaranteeing loans, mortgaging their own house or lending money to their children so they can buy a house.

Read the report here.

Before you, the Bank of Mum and Dad, decide to help out the kids in this way, we suggest you first obtain independent legal, accounting and financial advice to review your options and discuss potential legal issues.

Some of the legal issues to consider include:

  • If you guarantee the loan and there is a default, the bank may turn to you to repay the loan plus interest and costs;
  • In the worst-case scenario, you could lose your house;
  • Even if you trust your kids, if they get divorced or sued in the future, you could lose your money;
  • Your Will and Estate Plan should deal with the loan, should you forgive the loan in you Will? If you have given a loan to one child and not another, should you adjust your gifts in your Will?
  • What if your circumstances change and you need the money back?

You should also consider:

  • Interest;
  • The term of the loan;
  • Ranking below the bank (if there is one);
  • How and when you will be repaid.

From a legal point of view, generally we recommend at least written loan documents and a registered mortgage.

We can advise you in relation to a proposed loan to your children as well as help you document the transaction and the security. To make a time to discuss your personal circumstances simply send us an email or call 07 3220 1144.

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